Well my lovely bloglets,
When I was little, I of course had my life planned out. When I say little, I mean a teenager and then
a twenty one year old and possibly even a twenty two year old. And then the phone rang and my life was never
the same again. In some ways I have had
to give up everything and in other ways I have gained it all. I was talking to someone about it all on
Thursday and I said, as I do because I mean it, I don’t say it to fool myself into
thinking it. I’m not like that. I am honest with myself even though at times
that is painful and potentially a bit self-destructive. He asked me how much of cancer has made me,
me. How much of my response to life is
because of it or because that’s who I was anyway. I have been thinking about this and I don’t
know. Your twenties are formative
years. At University discovering who I
was. Living away from home was not a first;
I had lived at school from the age of 13 and then had a gap year including 5
months travelling, so in many ways I was already very independent. I was used to changing my sheets once a week,
used to not being with my parents. I don’t
mean this to sound like I regret it. I
don’t. I fucking loved, on the whole, my
time at boarding school. I went to a
wonderful school and made some incredible friends. Maybe it was my time there that made me, me.
Change and uncertainty are upon me. Both with the new chemo, I have another week
off and then, if my prescription has been processed, I start, in a week. I don’t want to. I really don’t. I have to take these drugs
because of some wankers who don’t know what it’s like to take them. Who don’t know about side effects and that in
some ways I gave my life up at 22. How
dare they refuse me the drug that my consultant thinks are the best for me? There is a reason I’m changing and why that
one was chosen. And the fact that I’m
probably going to be intolerant to them as well and fasting. It’s going to be a fucking nightmare and I
don’t want to get used to it. Once
again, making my life fit around the hospital and the drugs. It’s not fucking fair. And I’m still fucking knackered. Yes, I have been doing a lot of Uni work over
the last week – dissertation deadline is looming and I’m seeing my supervisor
on Thursday which has put the fear into me, so I’m getting my head down and
doing as much as I can so far to show her I have been doing it and am getting
on with it. Don’t really want a
bollocking. Also, I want it done. I have been tempted to defer it to next year,
but I don’t want to. I want to finish in July.
I want to graduate in November.
If I don’t get it done, that won’t happen and it will be another year
until I do. I have been sleeping between
nine and ten hours a night for the last week and I still feel like I’ve been
punched in the face. I just want to
sleep and to not want to sit crying all the time. To be on the sofa doing nothing. Able to go and enjoy friends birthdays
without constantly clock watching and working out how much sleep I will get
depending on when I leave.
I also know it’s the last stretch of a fucking insane year
of a fucking intense degree.
Finishing in July. It’s
getting scarily close. Still 6 more deadlines. And then.
No longer a student. Do I focus
on setting up my practice and hoping I get enough clients to cover my rent and
bills or do I get any job so I know I am financially secure but that takes time
away from being a Naturopath. I have not
done these last four years to not be a Naturopath. It’s what I am. What I am meant to be doing. I am fucking good at it. I know that. Money just gets in the way of a
lot.
I saw my sister yesterday and her bump which is
wonderful. I can’t wait to be an Aunt in
August. I am however all too aware of my
body clock, the tick getting louder each day.
I have wanted a baby since I was ten.
This is no surprise; I just thought that by now that part of my life
would be a bit different. I don’t know
what has made it like this. Why I haven’t
met someone. Well, someone that doesn’t
end in a car crash that isn’t complicated and can only remain a dream. I have a plan. Five more years and then IVF on my own. I really hope that I find someone but then
the last 7 years hasn’t exactly gone how I had planned. I wonder how the parallel me is doing in the
parallel universe where there is no cancer ….maybe that Katie is happy. Not to say I’m not happy. I just… well.
There’s room for improvement and hope.
As long as there is hope I will be ok.
I am ok. I’m just. Processing.
All the Stephen stuff. Talking
about everything on Thursday. Milo doing
the Great Wall of China marathon for me which includes 5, 164 steps for me. (https://www.justgiving.com/Milo-Ruane1/)
I meant what fucking lunatic brother does
that for his sister? Apparently mine.
I’ve just got a lot going on in my head at the moment. And when I’m tired I find it all just a bit
overwhelming. I really thought I would
be feeling ok and not tired by now….
With much love, laughter there is a lot of that I promise,
and hope,
XXX
Quite visceral this one- understandably! x
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